When your insecurities of the past are the cause of your insecurities of today.

She doesn’t answer the phone when you call. 

You think she is ignoring your call on purpose. 

That, she saw the phone ring, saw your name appear, and CHOSE to not answer. 

You feel insecure. 

So… you call 10 times. 

Finally she responds, she was probably in the shower, in class or had the phone on silent. 

But you’re completely rattled when she finally gets back to you. 

You lash out, well, you are rattled, understandable… but she was just in the shower bro.

You text her, and she doesn’t reply. 

You think its cause she is ignoring you, if true, well, that is cause to be insecure. 

Like hell Boy! She be ignoring you bro! 

So… You flood her phone with angry texts, informing her that you need to talk to her, asking her to respond, accusing her of …well, God knows what. 

But you know it always comes down to accusations.

You use the information she shared with you as a friend against her. 

You use her secrets against her. 

Some show of love that is. 

Then you wonder why she chooses what she should share with you or now.

You get jealous of her friends. 

Now, massive bummer, she has loads of guy friends. 

Yeah bro, I see why you’re jealous. 

Surely you’re insecure. 

You voice your concern, she explains, we’re just friends. 

You say ok, but… it is far from ok. 

You call when she’s out. 

You make a fuss when she goes out. 

You tell yourself you’re not controlling her, but you give her so much shit when she meets with her friends. 

But boys will be jealous yeah, and she should understand that, and stop hanging out with her friends, and only see you, and have her whole world revolve around you… yeah bro… I understand…. Not.

Few months into the relationship, 

you’re talking to your girl and suddenly realize she doesn’t share much with you. 

You accuse her of hiding things. 

You feel insecure.

Well yeah, you’re her boyfriend, why doesn’t she share things with you. 

Why is she hiding things from you. 

Ask her why? 

She’ll say she’s walking on a mine field. 

One wrong piece of information, innocent as it may be, you’ll explode. 

And you wonder why she doesn’t share.

It then comes to a stage where

You should feel insecure.

BUT

You realize now that your insecurities are the very thing causing you to feel insecure.

When your insecurities of the past are the cause of your insecurities of today.