Judgmental Friends.

We are all capable for awful things.

Most of us do awful thing, sometimes.

More often, slightly less than awful things.

But, none of us are perfect.

Also, just because we do bad things, doesn’t necessarily make us a bad person.

As a friend, you call your friends out on the bad things they do.

Why?

Because, isn’t it in your friends best interest that they know what they did was wrong, so they may avoid repeating it.

As a friend, you warn them of their tendencies.

Why?

Because, isn’t it in your friends best interest that they know what they’re capable of, so they may avoid doing it?

Once that’s done, you’re still their friend.

You still love them.

You recognize what they did was wrong,

But you don’t think they’re a bad person.

One mistake doesn’t define a person.

Friendship is not about ignoring the wrong things your friends do.

It certainly is not about condoning the bad things.

It’s not even “knowing but not minding”.

You should mind! You have a moral compass.

But, you mustn’t let it affect the relationship.

And if your friend doesn’t see where you’re coming from when you call him out on his past and his tendencies…. If he feels judged... then...

He doesn’t understand your friendship

Then…

Be patient. He’ll get there. Maybe.